Monday, September 08, 2008

Marriage Monday - Why Romance Matters

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This month's topic had me scratching my head. What do I consider romantic? What do we do in our marriage to keep the romance alive? Honestly, I wasn't sure. Neither one of us are really into elaborate romantic gestures as a general rule.

I finally concluded that the most romantic things my husband does for me involve surprises and acts of service. When he speaks my love language, I go weak in the knees.

For example, right now he's on a business trip to China. He's been gone since last Wednesday morning and he'll be gone two weeks. Before he left, he ran around like a crazy person doing things to make my life easier while he's gone. He fixed the water heater, filled the water softener with salt, and even installed a brand new garbage disposal in the sink!

And then, from halfway around the world, he sent me flowers, via his brother, who also stopped by to help me with the kids for a couple of days. He also arranged to have his sister come help me whenever she can. So while I still miss him like crazy, he made sure that I would be taken care of while he's gone.

That's my favorite form of romance - taking care of my needs before I even know I have them. I can't even imagine how depressed I would be if, on top of everything else I have to do, we had no hot water. Or if he hadn't hooked up all our video equipment so I could at least escape into a movie now and then.

No, my husband doesn't write me songs or poetry. And not that I would turn away his efforts, but a song never helped anyone with a pile of dirty dishes. I love it when romance and practicality meet.


  1. My husband is just like yours. He is very practical and hands on. I enjoyed reading about how he took care of you even while so far away.
    You are one of the fortunate to have a very careful husband.
    Thanks for reminding me of how sweet my own is. Blessings!

  2. Aww that is so sweet. Sounds like my hubby too :). Boy are we blessed :).

  3. Very nice! Thoughtful things like that do spell r.o.m.a.n.c.e to every woman. You've got quite a guy! :~D

    Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday today, Jana.


  4. Having a caring husband is truly a gift from God

  5. What a sweet man you have. I was blessed by my visit to you today.