Friday, November 02, 2007

Besides the obvious, things change

Before my oldest son was born, I remember being eight months pregnant and looking at my husband and saying, "Everything is going to be different." I'm not sure if he knew exactly what I meant at the time, and I'm sure I didn't fully comprehend the depth of that statement. Obvious things would change, but over the years, it's the subtle changes in who I am that have surprised me.

Things that changed when I became Mommy:
  • There are never enough hours in the day. It seemed like that before, but it didn't actually become true until I had kids.
  • There is no such thing as a sound night's sleep. I'm not sure when the last time I slept all the way through the night was, but it's been a while.
  • I worried about my kids' safety before they were born, and then that increased infinitely after they arrived. When they're not right there, being carried inside me, how can I protect them?
  • I stopped going around in bare feet in the house. I'm serious - you never know what you're going to step in with kids around.
  • I have become extremely jealous of "me" time. I am not a selfish person, but my brain demands a certain amount of time completely alone every day and when I don't get it, I get cranky.
  • I learned I am not a patient person. I'm working on that.
  • I have come to realize there is always room for one more (And no, I am not pregnant, nor do I plan to be).
  • There can never be enough pictures of the kids growing up (This is one I know my Dad knows).
  • Perhaps the most surprising thing to me is that there is no formula, no set of things that always work. What works like a charm for one child just makes the other one angry. The only set rule is to try everything until something works.
What surprising change happened to you when you became a parent?

1 comment:

  1. When I first became a parent I became acutely aware of my own mortality. Never really thought of it before then - I mean I was 20 why worry right? As soon as I became a Mom I worried about what would happen if I weren't around anymore.