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A lot of people who are unfamiliar with this passage mistakenly think that submission means unquestioning obedience. Well, I don't know about you, but I don't know of a single marriage that would work that way. This passage in Ephesians talks about a two-way road. Yes, wives are to submit to their husbands, but husbands are also to care for their wives like they care for themselves. Marriage is a picture of Christ and the church. And what did Christ do for the church? He sacrificed himself for it.
Now let me give you an example from my own marriage. When I was overweight, my husband would have been perfectly right to call me fat. I was. But he never did. First of all, he understood that I wanted to be attractive for him and that I was planning on losing weight as soon as I finished nursing my youngest son. But more than that, he knew it would be counterproductive. Think about the verse that says "After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it..." If he were to look at himself in the mirror and call himself fat, disgusting, and overweight, would that be the best self-motivator?
Instead, on a regular basis, my husband told me I was beautiful and sexy, and I never doubted he meant it. And that made me want to be the woman he saw. What would I have done if he'd ordered me to lose weight? I probably would have fallen into depression, eaten more, and had a really hard time feeling good about myself. Do you see where I'm going with this? The husband and wife's roles go hand in hand. If both partners don't do their parts, it's not going to work.
So what does submission mean? It means trusting your husband, letting him be the head of the house, not undermining his authority, but it also means letting him care for you as the most precious person in his life. It's the way marriage was meant to be.